Friday, January 2, 2009
Yeay my internet is working
Woah, so busy lately.Finally got the net hooked back up after my move. So I'll skip the boring details of my life. Lately I've been very interested in reading crack-pot stories about aliens! Probably because I've been watching too much x-files on dvd. Anyway I want to share with you my new favorite website...Signs of Witness It's an excellent laugh! The subtitle says "The interactive site that tracks putative signs of the supposed apocalypse and end of times for unbelievers, believers, and the unbelieved" unbelieved isn't even a word. its awesome.
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
I'm Back.
So it's been a while since I've made a post. Mostly I just decided to take a huge break from the internet and internet mingling and focus most of my time on work, a new relationship and getting my life back on par with happiness. But I'm back and I'm keeping up with the exciting world of internet articles. So you can expect some posts coming up.
But for now, chew on this :Yucky
But for now, chew on this :Yucky
Monday, January 28, 2008
ah music.
Hey all! sorry I haven't blogging my usual fem issues, but I'm going through a whole bunch of career changes. So in my spare time, I listen to music and I make music. So please check out my band Psychic Hotline at www.myspace.com/psychichotlineband
Also! god I can't stop listening to the old blood brothers records. People always get all superior with me and tell me that they were just a trendy band... but you know what fuck them!!! cause everythign before their last record and the break up was phenomenal. And you now what?!!!!!! I love loud fucking crazy music thats melodic and heavy at the same time. You know I really don't understand peoples deffinaition of HEAVY. It's like people can tell the defference between actualy heavy, and just loud. or stupid high end guitar tones and actual heavy. man, I'm gonna post soon on what Heavy music is. I'm sick of people making me listen to bands and saying "they're so heavy" when really the band is just saturated in effects. nothing heavy about them....
Also! god I can't stop listening to the old blood brothers records. People always get all superior with me and tell me that they were just a trendy band... but you know what fuck them!!! cause everythign before their last record and the break up was phenomenal. And you now what?!!!!!! I love loud fucking crazy music thats melodic and heavy at the same time. You know I really don't understand peoples deffinaition of HEAVY. It's like people can tell the defference between actualy heavy, and just loud. or stupid high end guitar tones and actual heavy. man, I'm gonna post soon on what Heavy music is. I'm sick of people making me listen to bands and saying "they're so heavy" when really the band is just saturated in effects. nothing heavy about them....
Saturday, December 29, 2007
good bye corporate world... I didn't have the balls I guess.
sorry for the long absence. In the last few weeks I've been laid off and given into the forced holiday which coincided with the christmas holiday of family gatherings. (not my immediate family of course as they live in Nova Scotia) however, as part of my update I wish to proclaim my love for David Bowies album ""The Man Who sold the World" which has been my anthem since the group layoff at my previous place of employment two weeks ago. Why is it that companies see fit to lay people off two weeks before major holidays? As if the two weeks post are too much of a burden for them to bare. Well as we all know corporations don't have to have a conscience since they harbor multiple minds/egos.
As cynical as I am, I pretty much have accepted my fate, which I always do. Nothing can be done to change what has happened but at least I am no longer working for a company that exploits the fears of a tyrant government. I've always held a "what the fuck can I do" attitude when it comes to my career. I fell into this line of work (a defense company) and although I've taken much slack from the idealists of the world I've always maintained my innocents in the matter. At least I wasn't selling weapons. But sometimes I would wonder about the machine I employed by. The machine that builds "security" devices to protect civilians from the "ever present threat" of bombs. The fact of the matter is Ilive in canada. and although malls and other consumer monuments are threatened by them, those bombs never seem to materialize. So why was selling thousands of dollars in bomb disposal equipment to people who weren't in danger of exploding? And hey, at least I'm not longer in a work environment, where my male bosses think my most important job is to make sure their coffee doesn't have cream or sugar.
In the end why would I want to stay there? in a company ruled by the opposite sex purely because they are not female. It's a sad thing to see your male counterparts be promoted above you purely because of their genitalia. It's not as if I can say that I couldn't put in the hours becaues I have children, I can't even claim that. If I had gotten laid off for that reason, rest assured, I'd be more pissed off. But lets talk about the basic issue here, which is that ever position of power in a company of over 700 employees is held by a man. and don't mistake me, there are a hefty amount of positions of power. They just happen to be held by men.
The thing is I knew I couldn't get any further in that company than I already had. Who was gonna give me a leading sales position? Its funy when you look at the departments. All the heads were men, all the minion positions were held by women. Men that walked into the positions when experienced women could have been promoted into the positions. I see this all the time. Why promote someone when you can hire someone new to take the position..someone male. I'm bitter but not bitter enough to stop trying to be at the top of something. At least at the point where I don't have to bring coffee to my boss just because I'm female and he's male. and to object... well that will cost you your job. Maybe thats why I got laid off. Maybe I objected too much. Like when male managers from completely different departments came up to me , not knowing my position or even my name and asked me to do their photocopying for them as if I was a file clerk, as if I didn't have a title I'd worked for. Maybe thats why they chose to lay me off. Or maybe it was because I didn't laugh at their jokes when they said something offensive... when they made sexists comments about the waitresses at our luncheons. Maybe thats why. One can only speculate. In the end, one can only speculate. Then again, maybe the only reason I got laid off is because the company needed to downsize. I wonder how they make the call to axe people?
As cynical as I am, I pretty much have accepted my fate, which I always do. Nothing can be done to change what has happened but at least I am no longer working for a company that exploits the fears of a tyrant government. I've always held a "what the fuck can I do" attitude when it comes to my career. I fell into this line of work (a defense company) and although I've taken much slack from the idealists of the world I've always maintained my innocents in the matter. At least I wasn't selling weapons. But sometimes I would wonder about the machine I employed by. The machine that builds "security" devices to protect civilians from the "ever present threat" of bombs. The fact of the matter is Ilive in canada. and although malls and other consumer monuments are threatened by them, those bombs never seem to materialize. So why was selling thousands of dollars in bomb disposal equipment to people who weren't in danger of exploding? And hey, at least I'm not longer in a work environment, where my male bosses think my most important job is to make sure their coffee doesn't have cream or sugar.
In the end why would I want to stay there? in a company ruled by the opposite sex purely because they are not female. It's a sad thing to see your male counterparts be promoted above you purely because of their genitalia. It's not as if I can say that I couldn't put in the hours becaues I have children, I can't even claim that. If I had gotten laid off for that reason, rest assured, I'd be more pissed off. But lets talk about the basic issue here, which is that ever position of power in a company of over 700 employees is held by a man. and don't mistake me, there are a hefty amount of positions of power. They just happen to be held by men.
The thing is I knew I couldn't get any further in that company than I already had. Who was gonna give me a leading sales position? Its funy when you look at the departments. All the heads were men, all the minion positions were held by women. Men that walked into the positions when experienced women could have been promoted into the positions. I see this all the time. Why promote someone when you can hire someone new to take the position..someone male. I'm bitter but not bitter enough to stop trying to be at the top of something. At least at the point where I don't have to bring coffee to my boss just because I'm female and he's male. and to object... well that will cost you your job. Maybe thats why I got laid off. Maybe I objected too much. Like when male managers from completely different departments came up to me , not knowing my position or even my name and asked me to do their photocopying for them as if I was a file clerk, as if I didn't have a title I'd worked for. Maybe thats why they chose to lay me off. Or maybe it was because I didn't laugh at their jokes when they said something offensive... when they made sexists comments about the waitresses at our luncheons. Maybe thats why. One can only speculate. In the end, one can only speculate. Then again, maybe the only reason I got laid off is because the company needed to downsize. I wonder how they make the call to axe people?
Friday, November 30, 2007
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
The War of Heaven
You may as well call me an athiest. I don't claim to be part of any religion and I don't have any spiritual set of beliefs. Yet I have a confession to make, I absolutely love reading the War of Heaven. I love reading about the angels. See when I went to church as a child, we didn't get to hear about the angels. We mostly just heard about Jesus. Everynow and then one of the archangels (usually Michael) comes down to Earth to deliver a message but thats about it. See the selling point for me as a child would have been to learn about the angels. But we didnt get those stories. We got stories about how you shouldn't have sex before your married and do onto others.. the holy ghost.. blah blah, and jesus healed the leapers. I half wondered if they left out all the stuff about Heirarchy of Angels because they thought people wouldn't believe in it... cause um.. devine beings and all you know.. yet somehow it was easy to believe that Moses parted the red sea and that Jesus walked on water. So why didn't we get to learn about the angels?
I really love getting into the stories from not only the bible, but the Quran, and judaism. The stories are really similar with specific diferences. Everytime I read about Lucifers fall from heaven I keep half feeling sorry for Lucifer. I mean he's sapose to be the embodiment of evil and all that but the few reasons for his rebellion against God aren't actually all that unreasonable. It also couldn't have been that unpopular of an idea since 1 third of the choir of angels saw his way of things.
Anyway, taken like a story and not you know..reality, it's a terribly interesting subject.
I really love getting into the stories from not only the bible, but the Quran, and judaism. The stories are really similar with specific diferences. Everytime I read about Lucifers fall from heaven I keep half feeling sorry for Lucifer. I mean he's sapose to be the embodiment of evil and all that but the few reasons for his rebellion against God aren't actually all that unreasonable. It also couldn't have been that unpopular of an idea since 1 third of the choir of angels saw his way of things.
Anyway, taken like a story and not you know..reality, it's a terribly interesting subject.
The sexist pencil sharpener and a bad comparison

Yesterday Jessica Valenti blogged about the sexist pencil sharpener you see above. As a regular reader, I know that Jessica often posts pics of sexist sinks, urnals and other objects that are designed to look like dismembered female bodies.. it's creepy and sexist and downright grose. She wants to address the issue.. fine right?
Well apparently some people get a bit thrown off by this and decide to try and compare apples and oranges. Here's an article I found today and sent to Feministing just in case they hadn't caught wind of it. It's good for a laugh. I don't get how peoples minds work.. totaly lack of logic. (I won't touch on the pencil pic since Jessica already covered it and it's pretty plain to see why)So lets read the article :
Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, author of Full Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman's Guide to Why Feminism Matters, is angry over the pencil sharpener pictured above. On Feministing.com she writes:
"What better way to start the week than a stark reminder of how the world sees women? (It seems the perfect woman is almost always dismembered and frequently being penetrated.) Just f***king kill me now."
I don't blame Jessica for being unhappy over the pencil sharpener, but I wonder if she would be as offended by the knife block pictured. The knife block seems far more offensive than the pencil sharpener:
1) The knife block depicts extreme and painful violence.
2) The pencil sharpener depicts a conventional, common sex act which women enjoy.
I'm not saying Jessica would reject any complaints about the knife block--perhaps she would agree with men's activists that it's offensive. But it seems that Jessica and many other feminists tend to see popular culture as "offensive to women" when, in reality, popular culture is far more anti-male than anti-female. This is particularly true when depicting violence--a dozen men can die in a movie or cop show and scarcely anyone blinks, but when a woman dies, it's a big deal. To pick one example, see my blog post Pirates of the Caribbean & Male Disposability.
First off, jesus, can we stop with the "I'm more persecuted/descriminated against than you"?? I don't see why the author thought it neccessary to even compare the pencil sharpener with the knife holder! We're talking about two very different patterns of thought behind two different sexist objects. You can't really compare them except to say that they are two sexist objects. It's silly. It's so childish to go, "well the one with the knife through it is way more sexist!!" What exactly is he trying to say, that because the knife holder exists that we shouldn't be upset by the pencil sharpener?! It's very valid to be upset by both of these tools but comparing them just to try and rationalize that men are more persececuted than women is fucking dumb and irrational.
secondly, um.. okay there is a difference between people dying in a movie and people dying in real life!! How do you go from relating sexist knife holders and pencil sharpeners, to how many more of one sex dies in movies than the other!?Here's a thought- Maybe more men die in the movies because there are generally more movies directed by men, roles written for men, and actors who happen to be men? Ever think of that? Then if you wanna talk about stereotypical gender roles in movies, well thats the issue isn't it! Thats worth talking about- and men don't have it so hot, but then neither do women. Your standard, cop shoot out movie (which Mr. Up Above is talking about) is going to be chalk full of male actors in manly hero/villan type roles. He's gonna shoot people, people will shoot at him, lots of extras will get in the way and die, usually the hero's best friend dies or gets horribly injured. The average female character in one of those movies will serve as one of two things, either she's the sexy villan or love interest, who sleeps with the hero. The villian female doops the cop and audience into believing that she's "one of the good guys". The love interest female only enter scenes to have sex with the leading male role, make dinner or become a victim. THERE YA GO! So if you got a problem with men dying in movies, why not complain to the MEN who actually create those movies!? Since ya know, the larger percentage of one sex running hollywood happen to be male.
Also, if you read the comments posted under the article you get a big insight on what Men's Rights Advocates are actually worried about - women being independent and having babies without getting married! OOO all chaos would insue!! Read this:
You see the sexual notion that women hold: men like sex, and wish women liked it. This is learned behavior. We teach this to our children, boys and girls alike. It makes men believe we need women more than we really do. Women believe it too. It is patently untrue. It can be un-learned.
But it is a very useful social convention. Were men to realize how little we really need women, society would unravel. Men have not yet even gained the ability to conveniently and easily control our fertility, and women are already bemoaning the lack of good marryable men. Middle aged middle class single women are, as Glenn pointed out elsewhere, choosing to have children without benefit of marriage. There are, I believe, two reasons for this. One is the marriage strike; the other is much much more troubling to me.
"Liberated" women seem unwilling, or unable, to endure the compromise necessary to actually marry and live with a man. They will say they have been in relationships that they hoped would lead to marriage and children, but "none of the relationships worked." What these women really mean is they were unwilling to accept someone else at face value, as another imperfect human, and actually compromise some of their deeply-held beliefs in the name of making a marriage work, and for the good of children. Women have been told they can have it all, and that is what they believe. Choosing to become a mother without a father is the ultimate act of self-indulgence. The lack of marryable men is partly due to a genuine shortage; the rest is merely a reflection of women's uncompromising attitudes.
Olivia, maybe you will be able to find someone you can manipulate long term with that thing you were born with. And then again, maybe not.
I read this stuff all the time. Self-ish woman, and the poor neglected men being tossed aside because women are too self-centered to get married...god, it makes me wanna vomit. Mens Rights Groups are less about fighting for men's rights and more about taking away the freedom of women to choose their own path in life. It's painfully clear... makes me really sick actually. takes a certain kind of insecure person to wanna control someone... let alone an entire sex.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Dating trends are confusing...
Oi. I was reading some interesting posts on a blog about the courting process in different countries. How of course, in north america there is quite a woman-purues-man trend thats been going on for well, at least as long as I've been alive.
So I got to thinking about the whole dating process in general and my dating history. It occurred to me that I can actually count the number of times a guy approached me to ask me, on a date. Thats two. Every other guy was approached by me, initiated by me. Now I've dated lots of people but there is something rather strange in all this that never ceases to confuse me is whats with the lack of men approaching women for a date? or of all things, a conversation? I've spoken about this with many of my gal friends and they concure that very few men have ever initiated any sort of start out relationship. Of course, you gotta leave out the late night drunken bar assholes, because those are a dime a dozen. But that's not someone looking for a relationship. It seems that for some reason, it's become more acceptable and common practise for a man to drunkenly walk up to a gal and ask her to go home with him, than for a sober man to walk up to a gal and invite her to dinner. How did this happen ? Was it always like this? I regret that I do not know since I'm only 24.
So I got to thinking about the whole dating process in general and my dating history. It occurred to me that I can actually count the number of times a guy approached me to ask me, on a date. Thats two. Every other guy was approached by me, initiated by me. Now I've dated lots of people but there is something rather strange in all this that never ceases to confuse me is whats with the lack of men approaching women for a date? or of all things, a conversation? I've spoken about this with many of my gal friends and they concure that very few men have ever initiated any sort of start out relationship. Of course, you gotta leave out the late night drunken bar assholes, because those are a dime a dozen. But that's not someone looking for a relationship. It seems that for some reason, it's become more acceptable and common practise for a man to drunkenly walk up to a gal and ask her to go home with him, than for a sober man to walk up to a gal and invite her to dinner. How did this happen ? Was it always like this? I regret that I do not know since I'm only 24.
Monday, November 12, 2007
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
My Letter to Guitar World and Guitar Magazine :

I've been reading Guitar World, and Guitar Magazine since I was a teenager and something has always bothered me about them. So I decided to write them a letter about it in hope that they could make changes. Somehow I doubt that they are willing to change their mag after the 30 some-odd years they've been publishing. But a gal can try can't she? So here goes.
Dear Guitar World and Guitar Magazine,
I would like to take this opportunity to speak for the women everywhere who play a kick-ass guitar and rawk. With my sarcastic thank-yous, I would like to say : thank you for catering to an audience of awkward pimply male teenagers for the last 30 years and telling them with every guitar-girl centerfold that "yes", if they become a rock star, they too can earn the right to treat women like guitar stands.
Thank-you for continually objectifying the female body and reminding us girls that our place in the music world is to be naked, vacuous, blonde, under-weight and merely holding the guitar in an upright position and never, never with our hand in chord formation on the strings. Yes thank you for letting me know through my entire awkward teens that my efforts in learning to be a better guitarist were all in vain. I had and continue to see the truth in your magazine- that my place is not to rawk on stage, play chilling solos, plugged into a 120 watt amp through 2 impeccable 4 X 12 cabinets, but to place a guitar between my legs in an effort to shield my nakedness as men take pictures and ogle me.
Even though I have so much to thank you for, I know the ultimate thank-you is this:
Thank you for reminding me, that women can't play guitar.
Sincerely,
One Pissed Off SG playing, mother of a guitar goddess.
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
The music industry is depressing me.
So I've been really busy with music lately. Anyway, I started an ilike page so people can check out our band on facebook.. anyway I'm looking through the stats of most played songs and to my utter shock they are actually britney spears, Kayne west, fergie and avril lavigne and I'm just wondering, WTF? Some part of me was trying to believe that the vast majority of people, don't actually wanna hear this crap. but alas, I'm only lying to myself and there are a lot of retards who suck down whatever muchmusic and mtv wanna feed them.
I'm so depressed, I'm really very depressed.
Monday, October 29, 2007
OH TV....
I'm not one of those people who self-righteously proclaim to hate and never watch tv. I'm not one of those. I actually watch a little too much screen than I should. That being probably two hours a day in the evening when my mind is too tired to actually think. However, I'm always stuck watching the same series over and over again. Seinfeld, the Family Guy, the Simpsons, Star Trek, Robot Chicken and one of the best sitcoms to come out in the last five years, Arrested Development which has sadly seen it's demise with last year. All my favorite things get cancilled. I count myself lucky that Robot Chicken is still running... I haven't seen a new episode of Aqua Teen in at least a year. I, like so many others, have taken to buying my favorite series on DVD for fear they will one day fall out of syndication. But beyond these few tv shows, the 700 and some odd channels on my digital cable box has little to offer and I'm wondering, why the hell do I have cable? Honestly I think I'd be happier owning all the seinfeld seasons and some kids in the hall than flicking endlessly until I find something worth watching. Not only that but while flicking I become horribly depressed by the commercials and various programs. Flicking through the womens television stations has to be the worst. These channels are for women yet they prodominately air reality shows about plastic surgery, cleaning you house, brides and how to dress. Then they throw in a Meg Ryan movies, or a made for tv movie adaptation of Daniel Steel novels. Are we sapose to be so vacuous? Then the commercials are beauty products, weight loss commercials... before you know it, your self esteem has just taken the beating of it's life and your wondering why you feel so shitty today.
Can we have a womens channel that actually caters to women without catering to the "every women wants to get married, clean her house and look good for her man" becuase I've yet to see it.
Can we have a womens channel that actually caters to women without catering to the "every women wants to get married, clean her house and look good for her man" becuase I've yet to see it.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
MRA spins: women and their lenient sentencing...
I think this is a good example of the type of article that MRA's use to support their hatred of women. I think it's important to draw attention to this article and the fact that it was linked on Dr Helen's blog because time will tell whether or not they will be able to use this as cannon fodder. You see Men Rights groups and supporters love to draw attention to female on male violence and then cry about how women receive lenient sentences because of the fact that they are women. The funny thing is that the articles trickle away and become ancient history very quickly if said female prep does receive a sentence that is just. It's the ones they rave about, like the famous Winkler case, where the female perp gets a "lenient" sentence that they actually remember. Those cases are few and far between. Also the most interesting issue is that the MRA's fail to include important details of self-defense, mental issues or other important factors. These important factors are called out as out-right lies by the MRA's and supporters because we all know that all women are evil and trying to destroy the defenseless men of the earth, or sorry, north america... because MRA's rarely care about the men of impoverished countries. There's one vital piece missing from MRA sites, the fact that they are only concerned about whats happening in North AMerica, UK, etc but not third world countries, or countries fraught with war.
I think it's important also to note that feminist don't profess that every woman is pure, just and honest, but that we do understand the difference between self-defense and murder. Something the MRA's of course blurr.
I'm interested to see how this case develops, whether or not it develops to the liking of the MRA, and what spin they can put on it. We'll see if this one becomes ancient history.
I think it's important also to note that feminist don't profess that every woman is pure, just and honest, but that we do understand the difference between self-defense and murder. Something the MRA's of course blurr.
I'm interested to see how this case develops, whether or not it develops to the liking of the MRA, and what spin they can put on it. We'll see if this one becomes ancient history.
The Mongrels!
So its been a couple months since I've put on a show, but I'm currently working on a show with Montreal headliner the Mongrels! I wanted to take the time to acknowledge how freaking awesome this band is and how much lead singer Amy Torok kicks rock'n'roll ass. Click here for an article written by the Hour.
You should also check out their myspace page and listen to their music HERE!
You should also check out their myspace page and listen to their music HERE!
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Today's Laugh : "Poor White Men"
Hehe
This is so typical I had to post it. The author, like so many "poor white men" (and I mean poor as in "oh you poor mistreated little boy" not as in someone impoverished) believes that feminism emasculates men. and why not since, feminism is the reason for so much divorce. This particular author paints a picture of the dominant feminist woman (who apparently is every women in Western society according to this guy) He claims that men are tossed to the curb for being unable to "perform".
Apparently someone has never heard of Viagra... I'm sorry but what does "unable to perform" mean exactly. Erectile disfunction? or just "hey baby I'm not in the mood?"
Apparently western women are sex hungry, controlling fiends who laugh and mock their husbands/significant others if they can't maintain an errection. And guess what folks, apparently this happens all the time!! Many men suffer silently under the iron fist of the almightly wanting vagina! Did you know that Western women now run the entire western society and how men all over North America cry at night because they are so oppressed....
awe is someone scared of female sexuality?? But you know it's all feminisms fault :
#1 most typical complaint right there... feminism is responisble for the break down of the family unit... So big myth #1. Since the people who believe this say that the solution is that all women be locked into matramony for their lives regardless of how their husband treats them, or how they ended up with husband. If only the men folk could control us raging selfish bitches! (oh typical characterizing of feminist and most women by MRA activists, is that us women are just so selfish)
You know the rest of the article is really hard to stomach because he's serious, but you can read it and laugh because it's so ridiculous.
*sigh* because the middle east has been so good at empowering women.....
At least one of the commenters isn't a complete retard. She said this:
Anyway I got a bit of a chuckle out of the article. Very typical. The whole womanism deserves an entirely seperate post tho... god.
This is so typical I had to post it. The author, like so many "poor white men" (and I mean poor as in "oh you poor mistreated little boy" not as in someone impoverished) believes that feminism emasculates men. and why not since, feminism is the reason for so much divorce. This particular author paints a picture of the dominant feminist woman (who apparently is every women in Western society according to this guy) He claims that men are tossed to the curb for being unable to "perform".
if a man is not up to sexual standards, he is given the divorce papers, falsely accused of emotional and physical violence, placed under strain physically and mentally to the point of being mentally hacked to death or sent to a psychiatric institution.
Apparently someone has never heard of Viagra... I'm sorry but what does "unable to perform" mean exactly. Erectile disfunction? or just "hey baby I'm not in the mood?"
Apparently western women are sex hungry, controlling fiends who laugh and mock their husbands/significant others if they can't maintain an errection. And guess what folks, apparently this happens all the time!! Many men suffer silently under the iron fist of the almightly wanting vagina! Did you know that Western women now run the entire western society and how men all over North America cry at night because they are so oppressed....
A woman, at times, prefers a man who performs sexually but does not perform ‘other husbandly duties’ of work, paying taxes...
awe is someone scared of female sexuality?? But you know it's all feminisms fault :
It does not help that feminism, which is a western imperialist concept, which denies the family in favour of the individuality of the woman to do whatever she wants.
#1 most typical complaint right there... feminism is responisble for the break down of the family unit... So big myth #1. Since the people who believe this say that the solution is that all women be locked into matramony for their lives regardless of how their husband treats them, or how they ended up with husband. If only the men folk could control us raging selfish bitches! (oh typical characterizing of feminist and most women by MRA activists, is that us women are just so selfish)
You know the rest of the article is really hard to stomach because he's serious, but you can read it and laugh because it's so ridiculous.
At least feminism has an antidote.
This antidote is called womanism and is in Iran. Stephania Harris has also espoused womanism in her blog. Womanism is the right of the woman to be herself but also to respect the family and the husband. It does not necessarily mean servitude for the woman. It means empowerment for the woman, her family, while ensuring domestic tranquility in the family. It is also based in spiritual concepts found in all of the world’s major religions, such as Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism, and Buddhism.
While this does not excuse the fact that men have to attempt to perform their duties as a husband including the sexual component, it should be remembered that married couples do not need the strains or pressures of “do this” when things can be achieved through peaceful means.
*sigh* because the middle east has been so good at empowering women.....
At least one of the commenters isn't a complete retard. She said this:
surely the solution to inequality in relationships like this is equality, not re-oppressing women. Sexual inequality negatively effects both women and men, so see-sawing back and forth between two extremes will never make everyone happy. If people were all seen as equal, regardless of gender and whatever ludicrous expectations go with that, then we wouldn't have this problem. People would be seen for who they are rather than what they are 'supposed' to be. It's obvious we haven't reached that kind of a society yet, but that doesn't mean we should stop striving for it, and it certainly doesn't mean that we should go backwards into this 'womanism'. That concept is in blatant opposition with the ideals of equality for ALL. Women can respect themselves and respect their husbands and family, but only if men agree to do so too. Equal rights means equal expectations on both sexes.
Anyway I got a bit of a chuckle out of the article. Very typical. The whole womanism deserves an entirely seperate post tho... god.
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Buy Me New Boobs?! What?!
I can't decide whether to laugh or cry...
Try wrapping your head around this... you post your picture on a website and if the men folk like what they see, they can donate money to making you look more like what they want to see... a barbie doll!! This is the female body being objectified at it's best. I'm not sure who to feel sorry for in this circumstance. The poorly raised men who think this website is okay, and see nothing wrong with it telling women (who already must be suffering some kind of dysmorphia) that they need to augment their body to be desirable and also look the way men want them to..., or the women who are on there trying to raise money for their new jugs... Female objectification aside, whats the deal with this trend of making plastic cosmetic surgery a household name and worse, a house hold "DO" ? Breast enhancement, among other things, have become so acceptable in our culture that they rack (hehe pun totally intended) attention from every media source and are now advertised on radio stations, tv stations, magazines, you name it , it's there.
I think Dr. Weiner said it best in this article and thank god someone did :
You don't want to hear the testimonials for this site. This site is half a porn site and the girls pass it off as if it's MSN messenger! They interact with their donars over the net and have admitted to them being "raunchy". Oh and then one of the girls tried to compare her C section to surgery for breast implants... One of those surgeries is a necessary to remove a human life from another human being, and the other is necessary to to put a foreign object into chest to make it more appealing to the disturbed men-folk of the world and possibly your dis morphia ridden mind. Hmmm can you compare those? I don't think so.
None of the money, says Moore, has gone to any of the founders. "We're donors just like the other male members," he says. "We work full-time jobs and do this as a public service."
Try wrapping your head around this... you post your picture on a website and if the men folk like what they see, they can donate money to making you look more like what they want to see... a barbie doll!! This is the female body being objectified at it's best. I'm not sure who to feel sorry for in this circumstance. The poorly raised men who think this website is okay, and see nothing wrong with it telling women (who already must be suffering some kind of dysmorphia) that they need to augment their body to be desirable and also look the way men want them to..., or the women who are on there trying to raise money for their new jugs... Female objectification aside, whats the deal with this trend of making plastic cosmetic surgery a household name and worse, a house hold "DO" ? Breast enhancement, among other things, have become so acceptable in our culture that they rack (hehe pun totally intended) attention from every media source and are now advertised on radio stations, tv stations, magazines, you name it , it's there.
I think Dr. Weiner said it best in this article and thank god someone did :
"This Web site is a bad idea because anything that trivializes plastic surgery is dangerous," Wiener says. "Plastic surgery is a serious decision that should never be made light of. MyFreeImplants.com turns serious plastic surgery into a contest, which is something I find appalling and frightening."
You don't want to hear the testimonials for this site. This site is half a porn site and the girls pass it off as if it's MSN messenger! They interact with their donars over the net and have admitted to them being "raunchy". Oh and then one of the girls tried to compare her C section to surgery for breast implants... One of those surgeries is a necessary to remove a human life from another human being, and the other is necessary to to put a foreign object into chest to make it more appealing to the disturbed men-folk of the world and possibly your dis morphia ridden mind. Hmmm can you compare those? I don't think so.
Back From Vacation !
Back from vacation! The details are not important to this site but can be read about on my livejournal. So it's back to some serious blogging... I've missed so much. Part of being on vacation for me, is not touching my computer. It's wonderful to get away from cyber land for a while. I've done some catching up in the world of feminist blogging as well as the world of new in general. I even stopped by Dr. I wish I had a cock Helen, I mean Dr. Helen's blog to see what none sense she was getting up to while I was away. As a treat I've included my favorite quote from last weeks series of entries :
"The book opens with essential gear that girls need: the list includes among other things, a swiss army knife described as a key tool for survival, a bandana to keep your head cool, rope and twine to help learn about knots, a journal, a hair band--great advice for girls with long hair"
Wow! wonderful observation Helen! It's plain to see how she was able to make it as a forensic psychologist with these kind of keen observations! wow. natural instinct there... for stating the obvious. Still best quote over the past week.
Anyway, I guess my one regret of being away from the blogosphere is simply that I missed out on all the Laura Sessions Stepp bashing.
"The book opens with essential gear that girls need: the list includes among other things, a swiss army knife described as a key tool for survival, a bandana to keep your head cool, rope and twine to help learn about knots, a journal, a hair band--great advice for girls with long hair"
Wow! wonderful observation Helen! It's plain to see how she was able to make it as a forensic psychologist with these kind of keen observations! wow. natural instinct there... for stating the obvious. Still best quote over the past week.
Anyway, I guess my one regret of being away from the blogosphere is simply that I missed out on all the Laura Sessions Stepp bashing.
Friday, October 5, 2007
"Perfume" - the movie, the book, my opinion.
I was engaged in a short-lived discussion last night with my fiancé. Wait, perhaps I should back up. Monday night I was engaged in a movie which led to a short-lived discussion with my fiancé. The movie was “Perfume”, based on a highly celebrated novel about a man in 17th century France who wished to preserve the scent of women. Okay, my fiancé adored this book and claimed to have read it no less than five times. I have never read the book but have observed his copy on one of our many bookshelves. In the end he asked me what I thought of the movie. I said I found it disturbing. I didn’t get to explain much about why I found it disturbing. I managed to get out- he murdered women to preserve their scent (disturbing), that the movie portrayed a murderer of women with an overtly sympathetic eye and a disturbing amount of sanity…(the movie made it appear that the lead character wasn’t really doing anything insane or wrong at all) I didn’t get much further. It was my comment about the murdered women all being virgins, that lead him to believe my opinion was a defensive reaction, which in some way it was. I despise the whole virgin prizing. I think it’s sick. It’s just another way for men to control women. Controlling ones sexuality is to control ones very nature and freedom… oppression… anyway, we all know this. I get sick of seeing it all the time. This movie/book/piece of art, expresses that virginity is a prize, in fact a state of heavenliness… I don’t wish to spoil the ending of the movie for anyone, but if you watch the ending you will know exactly what I mean.
The thing is.. I really loved how the movie was filmed. The colouring of the shots in squallier has a blue/grey quality to impress upon the dismal existence one would lead in Paris… I can only guess. But I didn’t like the way the story was told. As if the lead character were not a completely insane beast. It was kinda fairy tale like. It was kinda.. love story like… It was pretty disturbing. I dunno, I guess the thing is, we often see movies where the lead character victimizes women yet is painted in a sympathetic light. Can you think of a movie that does this with a female character victimizing a male?
The thing is.. I really loved how the movie was filmed. The colouring of the shots in squallier has a blue/grey quality to impress upon the dismal existence one would lead in Paris… I can only guess. But I didn’t like the way the story was told. As if the lead character were not a completely insane beast. It was kinda fairy tale like. It was kinda.. love story like… It was pretty disturbing. I dunno, I guess the thing is, we often see movies where the lead character victimizes women yet is painted in a sympathetic light. Can you think of a movie that does this with a female character victimizing a male?
Labels:
book,
movie review,
sexist media,
violence against women
Friday, September 28, 2007
Eliminate Oppression with Oppression!
Today the The Conseil du statut de la femme( "is a government consultation and study council that, since 1973, has devoted itself to promoting and defending the rights and interests of women in Québec" ) has decided to call:
Yeah, uh sorry, you can't eliminate oppression by oppressing people..
Much of the article pissed me right off... I don't even know what to say!? hypocritical bullshit.
on the Quebec government to ban what it calls visible religious symbols. While a crucifix or a Star of David on a necklace would be acceptable, council president Christiane Pelchat said, public employees should not be permitted to wear such overt symbols as the hijab, a head covering worn by Muslim women, or the yarmulke, a skullcap worn by Jewish men.
Yeah, uh sorry, you can't eliminate oppression by oppressing people..
Much of the article pissed me right off... I don't even know what to say!? hypocritical bullshit.
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