Dating trends are confusing...

Oi. I was reading some interesting posts on a blog about the courting process in different countries. How of course, in north america there is quite a woman-purues-man trend thats been going on for well, at least as long as I've been alive.

So I got to thinking about the whole dating process in general and my dating history. It occurred to me that I can actually count the number of times a guy approached me to ask me, on a date. Thats two. Every other guy was approached by me, initiated by me. Now I've dated lots of people but there is something rather strange in all this that never ceases to confuse me is whats with the lack of men approaching women for a date? or of all things, a conversation? I've spoken about this with many of my gal friends and they concure that very few men have ever initiated any sort of start out relationship. Of course, you gotta leave out the late night drunken bar assholes, because those are a dime a dozen. But that's not someone looking for a relationship. It seems that for some reason, it's become more acceptable and common practise for a man to drunkenly walk up to a gal and ask her to go home with him, than for a sober man to walk up to a gal and invite her to dinner. How did this happen ? Was it always like this? I regret that I do not know since I'm only 24.

Big dose of reality.

And they say feminism is no longer needed.

My Letter to Guitar World and Guitar Magazine :

I've been reading Guitar World, and Guitar Magazine since I was a teenager and something has always bothered me about them. So I decided to write them a letter about it in hope that they could make changes. Somehow I doubt that they are willing to change their mag after the 30 some-odd years they've been publishing. But a gal can try can't she? So here goes.

Dear Guitar World and Guitar Magazine,

I would like to take this opportunity to speak for the women everywhere who play a kick-ass guitar and rawk. With my sarcastic thank-yous, I would like to say : thank you for catering to an audience of awkward pimply male teenagers for the last 30 years and telling them with every guitar-girl centerfold that "yes", if they become a rock star, they too can earn the right to treat women like guitar stands.

Thank-you for continually objectifying the female body and reminding us girls that our place in the music world is to be naked, vacuous, blonde, under-weight and merely holding the guitar in an upright position and never, never with our hand in chord formation on the strings. Yes thank you for letting me know through my entire awkward teens that my efforts in learning to be a better guitarist were all in vain. I had and continue to see the truth in your magazine- that my place is not to rawk on stage, play chilling solos, plugged into a 120 watt amp through 2 impeccable 4 X 12 cabinets, but to place a guitar between my legs in an effort to shield my nakedness as men take pictures and ogle me.

Even though I have so much to thank you for, I know the ultimate thank-you is this:

Thank you for reminding me, that women can't play guitar.

Sincerely,

One Pissed Off SG playing, mother of a guitar goddess.

The music industry is depressing me.

So I've been really busy with music lately. Anyway, I started an ilike page so people can check out our band on facebook.. anyway I'm looking through the stats of most played songs and to my utter shock they are actually britney spears, Kayne west, fergie and avril lavigne and I'm just wondering, WTF? Some part of me was trying to believe that the vast majority of people, don't actually wanna hear this crap. but alas, I'm only lying to myself and there are a lot of retards who suck down whatever muchmusic and mtv wanna feed them.

I'm so depressed, I'm really very depressed.

OH TV....

I'm not one of those people who self-righteously proclaim to hate and never watch tv. I'm not one of those. I actually watch a little too much screen than I should. That being probably two hours a day in the evening when my mind is too tired to actually think. However, I'm always stuck watching the same series over and over again. Seinfeld, the Family Guy, the Simpsons, Star Trek, Robot Chicken and one of the best sitcoms to come out in the last five years, Arrested Development which has sadly seen it's demise with last year. All my favorite things get cancilled. I count myself lucky that Robot Chicken is still running... I haven't seen a new episode of Aqua Teen in at least a year. I, like so many others, have taken to buying my favorite series on DVD for fear they will one day fall out of syndication. But beyond these few tv shows, the 700 and some odd channels on my digital cable box has little to offer and I'm wondering, why the hell do I have cable? Honestly I think I'd be happier owning all the seinfeld seasons and some kids in the hall than flicking endlessly until I find something worth watching. Not only that but while flicking I become horribly depressed by the commercials and various programs. Flicking through the womens television stations has to be the worst. These channels are for women yet they prodominately air reality shows about plastic surgery, cleaning you house, brides and how to dress. Then they throw in a Meg Ryan movies, or a made for tv movie adaptation of Daniel Steel novels. Are we sapose to be so vacuous? Then the commercials are beauty products, weight loss commercials... before you know it, your self esteem has just taken the beating of it's life and your wondering why you feel so shitty today.

Can we have a womens channel that actually caters to women without catering to the "every women wants to get married, clean her house and look good for her man" becuase I've yet to see it.

MRA spins: women and their lenient sentencing...

I think this is a good example of the type of article that MRA's use to support their hatred of women. I think it's important to draw attention to this article and the fact that it was linked on Dr Helen's blog because time will tell whether or not they will be able to use this as cannon fodder. You see Men Rights groups and supporters love to draw attention to female on male violence and then cry about how women receive lenient sentences because of the fact that they are women. The funny thing is that the articles trickle away and become ancient history very quickly if said female prep does receive a sentence that is just. It's the ones they rave about, like the famous Winkler case, where the female perp gets a "lenient" sentence that they actually remember. Those cases are few and far between. Also the most interesting issue is that the MRA's fail to include important details of self-defense, mental issues or other important factors. These important factors are called out as out-right lies by the MRA's and supporters because we all know that all women are evil and trying to destroy the defenseless men of the earth, or sorry, north america... because MRA's rarely care about the men of impoverished countries. There's one vital piece missing from MRA sites, the fact that they are only concerned about whats happening in North AMerica, UK, etc but not third world countries, or countries fraught with war.

I think it's important also to note that feminist don't profess that every woman is pure, just and honest, but that we do understand the difference between self-defense and murder. Something the MRA's of course blurr.

I'm interested to see how this case develops, whether or not it develops to the liking of the MRA, and what spin they can put on it. We'll see if this one becomes ancient history.

The Mongrels!

So its been a couple months since I've put on a show, but I'm currently working on a show with Montreal headliner the Mongrels! I wanted to take the time to acknowledge how freaking awesome this band is and how much lead singer Amy Torok kicks rock'n'roll ass. Click here for an article written by the Hour.

You should also check out their myspace page and listen to their music HERE!